Kindness for 2019.
New years time is a time for reflection of the past year and goal setting for the coming year. I am a huge believer in reflection of the year past, distilling the wisdom of lessons learned.
I am also a big believer in prayerfully setting annual goals for the year to come and practical strategies of how to get there.
One of the goals I like to set are character goals. Things that I would like to concentration on my life for the year 2019. I have three. The one I want to share today is Kindness.
I have discovered that every person that I deeply respect and love have has a common attribute. They are Kind. Deeply, consistently, and unapologetically Kind.
Kind in the way they talk. Kind in the way they treat people. Kind in the way they act.
When I try to define kindness, I falter. For I feel that kindness is difficult to describe or define, yet easy to recognise in people around you. If we all think about kindness a person in our lives will always spring to mind as someone who is innately kind.
As I reflect on this attribute, the person who I think demonstrates kindness the most I would have to say hands down, every time, Mark Greenwood.
He inspires me to kindness. I write about this at length in my up and coming book on marriage which will be released in February. However for now let me give you a snap shop into the kindness of my husband for I think this best defines the kindness I desire to walk in for 2019.
Mark Greenwood is Kind
His kindness is reflected in the way he always chooses to think, and hope the best of people. When presented with a situation where he could have multiple perceptions and interpretations of people’s motives, if he doesn’t know facts or have the luxury of speaking to the person involved themselves, he will always choose the best case scenario and assume the best motives of people’s hearts.
His kindness is reflected in the way he speaks to me. He never ever raises his voice. He always speaks with love, kindness and gentleness. If you know my husband you know that he is gentleness and kindness personified in public. I can assure you he is even kinder behind closed doors. It can be mildly infuriating, especially when I am feeling impatient or entitled.
His kindness is reflected in the way he loves me. I feel loved with acts of service. Knowing this he cleans every week till the house shines. Even when I am home from work, or on holidays. He does it as though it is his sole joy. He always takes the clothes out of the dryer and off the line and folds them as I also hate this job. These small things mean the world to me.
His kindness is in the way he administrates my life. As a creative and visionary, I need direction and someone to keep me on track as well as practically create a plan and keep me accountable to it. He does this for me. Believes in me unceasingly, and redirects me patiently when needed.
He has long given up on buying me clothes as I have told him that the clothes he buys are mostly ugly and he mustn’t waste his money or time. However, he delights in getting me massages and candles or treats me to clothes I have lusted over for months.
His kindness is in the tenderness and love he bestows not only on his mum and Dad but also on mine. Treating them with honour, respect and love that often challenges me and makes me reflect on my behaviour and attitudes towards my parents.
He is kindness in action. It inspires me deeply.
In 2019 I want to be more kind. Just like Him. Just like Jesus.
What about you beloved? What is a character trait that you would love to focus on in 2019 and why?
I hope you are having the most glorious first week of 2019.
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Until next time,
You are deeply loved and richly cherished.
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