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How Do You Treat Your Waiter?

How do you treat your waiter?

You can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat someone who has nothing to offer them. The way one treats the cleaner at work, or the way they interact with the waitress who brings their coffee. Even the courtesy one shows the teenager with pre-pubescent pimples at their local MacDonald’s says a lot about the consistency and kindness of a person.  

I worked with this inspiring Doctor recently who had so much integrity and kindness. He would great the cleaners, the barista and the wardies with the same kindness and courtesy as he would greet his interns, his fellow colleagues and the medical superintendent. He was no respecter of persons. A man of the utmost integrity.

Working as a Junior Doctor at the moment, in a profession that has a deeply ingrained pecking order within the hospital, it is interesting to see how different doctors who are more advanced interact with other junior staff. I am at the moment included in the category of junior.

Many work cultures, healthcare included can be hierarchical, and often there can be a temptation to put oneself forward. To make an extra effort with supervisors and those in power, and be less courteous, kind, and patient with those who are below our ‘ranking.’ We as a culture can be terribly biased and networking is often smiled upon and even celebrated. While there is nothing wrong with showing our leaders their due respect, this can never be at the cost of being consistently kind to everyone else.

I have been challenged this week. Sure, I can be respectful and kind to my leaders. Even my fellow doctors. But how do I treat the medical students? Am I kind to the nurses? Do I greet the cleaners? How do I interact with the lady who makes my coffee? Was I impatient to my waiter when she brought me the wrong order? (Yes this week I definitely was)!

What about my friendship circles? It is easy to be kind and loving to my friends who love me. But what about the semi homeless man who smells a little off sitting at the back of church? Would I take the time to talk to him? Or the funny little couple who sit down the back with a strange tick and torn clothes. Would I take the time to give them a hug? Who am I to those who have nothing to offer me back?

Beloved to reign in life is to be a person who is no respecter of persons. Someone who shows consistent kindness regardless of person, rank and title.

How do we treat those who have nothing to offer us?

Do we treat all people the same regardless of rank and title? 

You are deeply loved and richly cherished.

Dr Christine Greenwood

Reign in Life


Wink: I write this after sitting at a coffee shop yesterday and feeling very annoyed at the poor little overworked Asian waiter who took 40 minutes to bring our coffee. In my head I rehearsed a whole conversation that I was going to have with them about inefficiency and lack of service. After pausing to take a breath from the conversation in my head I looked around to see a packed room, with only two people making coffees, taking orders and running the orders out. They were frantic and manic and most probably underpaid. I am sure a poorly timed grumpy lecture from a little brown customer who spent a measly $9.00 in their coffee/bubble tea shop was not exactly what they signed up for.

P.S have you read The joy of being Under leadership

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